bluelander: Psychedelic dog drawing (Dog)
I had the—cursed? Let's go with cursed—realization that briefly taking off my headphones to say hello to someone (usually just a co-worker in passing) is the modern equivalent of doffing one's hat. Like people on the internet say as a meme. I doff my cap to you, good sir or madam. People used to really do that. But now I just grab my headphones and pull them away for a second. Or if it escalates from polite greeting to brief chat, I put them around my neck. To show how much I value you, rather than revealing to you the most secret of my head hair, I will make an exception and let your words enter my knowledge canal. I think it makes more sense as a sign of respect, but... Look, this is a little embarrassing, but I've never really understood hats.

I understand them in terms of practicality. A hat with a wide brim can keep the sun out of your eyes. A thick hat can keep your head warm in the winter. I get all that. I don't understand hats as a social convention.

Hats used to be the thing. Look at any photo of a group of people outdoors for like the first 100 years after photography existed, everyone is wearing a hat. There were complicated rules and customs around hats, when and where you can wear them, where you hang them, which hats are appropriate to wear at which occasions. Hatters would give themselves chronic mercury poisoning to make popular styles of hats. This was a well-known phenomenon, and was in fact documented in a famous 19th century novel (which later went on to inspire The Matrix, the defining literary work of our current century in spite [or perhaps because?] of a conspicuous absence of hats) but it seems like society accepted their malady as the regrettable but necessary cost of having hats. What were we gonna do, not wear certain types of hats?

I'm glad the hat craze has died down, but some elements of it have carried over to the present day. I wasn't allowed to wear hats in school, but occasionally we were allowed a Hat Day as a special treat; but to me, wearing a hat to school seemed just as silly as not being allowed to wear a hat to school. I don't understand why rules mandating or forbidding hats exist at all, except for hard hats on construction sites, and ladies with big elaborate hats in 1940s movie theaters. It seems like it should be left entirely up to individual taste.

Anyway, I'm the only person I see wearing big over-the-ear headphones in public, and my extreme charisma and effortless good looks make me a preternatural trend-setter, so I expect doffing them will become the next big thing in polite gestures by, oh, let's say 2031.

Legends of the Hidden Temple



I always thought it was sketchy that the show had a team based on monkeys and also a location called Shrine of the Silver Monkey. There was no barracuda moat or iguana grotto. I think a fair game show should strive to eliminate even the appearance of favoritism.

Have a good weekend


And that's a week of journal entries in the can! I'm proud of my stick-to-itiveness, but I gotta say, I'm out of practice and the quality of my writing has really gone downhill. Writing on a phone will never feel natural or good to me, and I deeply resent this being my only window to the world for the majority of my life, and I see so many typos and grammatical errors and subject-verb disagreement and overly long clunky sentences that it's almost too daunting to look at when I get home; rewriting it to make it good would require more time and energy than I have left at the end of the day. I suppose I could cut the task in half, spend one day writing and the next day editing, but writing is more fun than editing even in ideal circumstances, and on a phone, 1000x moreso. Editing on a phone sucks way more than writing on a phone. Keyboard and mouse editing feels effortless in comparison: moving the cursor with laser precision like God intended, ctrl-X and ctrl-Ving bits of text around with reckless abandon, etc. Doing all that on a phone feels like folding origami with boxing gloves on. And if I want to mark up any hypertext, perhaps with some computer language designed for that purpose? Well, let's just say less than sign b greater than sign I MISS BEARBLOG less than sign forward slash b greater than sign.

Nah, dreamwidth is cool, there are a lot of things I enjoy about it (see 15 icons for an example. —ed.) But it is kinda funny how confident I was that I could effortlessly go back to a platform where I have to use HTML instead of markdown. I've been marking up hypertext since I was knee-high to a doodle bug, I thought, it'll be a piece of cake! Forgetting that, hey dummy, most of your writing in this blog has been on a device where getting to the </> characters requires eight sub-menus, two days' travel by carriage and a writ of free passage from the king. But I'm not ready to switch back just yet. Let's see how this plays out.

As far as editing is concerned, I'm going to try not worrying about it too much. This is for fun, and if I spend too much time and energy worrying about the not-fun part, I'm likely to burn myself out and not write at all, which would be a shame. Hopefully with practice my off-the-cuff writing will improve, and I already think it's acceptable. And in this era of plagiarism robots, "acceptable" is a higher bar for writing on the internet than it used to be 😬

Anyway, I'm taking the weekend off, so see you in a couple days. If you're reading via one of the feeds, reminder that you can leave feedback on any entry by clicking the link and logging in via openID, or leave a totally anonymous comment! IP tracking turned off. Questions and comments will be addressed on Monday.

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bluelander: White scribbly human head with no features on black background (Scribble)
I saw my notes app on my home screen, so I thought I'd jot down a few thoughts. I don't know how things worked out this way. Serendipity, I guess.

I wish it was easier to clear the contents of the current note. I have to long-press somewhere on the screen, tap the three dots to expose the "select all" option, tap "select all", then press backspace. I guess it's not that burdensome, I just wish there was an "erase all" button I could tap. I can delete the whole note, but then I have to create a new note, which is another whole process. I don't want a process, I just want to clear the buffer. Rip the paper out of the typewriter and roll in a clean sheet. Actually I guess that's directly analogous to deleting the current note and creating a new one. Look, Tuesdays are rough for me right now. Apologies.

Tuesday is currently my therapy day, and for ease of making up time it's scheduled basically first thing in the morning. I normally have to be at work at 8:30, and therapy is either 08h00-09h00 or 08h30-09h00. She's usually able to schedule me for the full hour though. I have a 30 minute walk to work, so in theory I'm an hour late to work and I can stay an hour late, but in practice it takes me time to recover and there's usually *some*thing I need to do in the morning. This morning it was seeing the landlord about something I have to be there in person to sign a thing for, and that took some time, so I got to work at 10:30. My ADHD makes me sensitive to changes in my routine, so therapy is a little extra hard, but I'm being really brave about it.

One thing we've been talking about is whether I've been misdiagnosed and have actually had autism my whole life. My spouse suggested the possibility, and at first I thought it was unlikely, because there are a lot of symptoms I associate with autism that I don't experience, and in many cases am the diametric opposite. I don't infodump to people easily, I actually have a really hard time opening up to people. I don't get lifelong hyperfixations, my brain bounces around from thing to thing (for example, I might have a blog I update every day for a year and then lose interest for several months.) I don't struggle with empathy or telling how people feel by their expression, if anything I'm a little oversensitive in that respect. I'm reasonably okay picking up social cues. I don't stim or self-soothe (I like to fidget with things when my hands aren't doing anything, maybe that counts.) And I know autistic people aren't a monolith and don't all have the same struggles, and I know ADHD symptoms have some overlap with autism, I just thought I didn't identify with enough of the classical autism traits to qualify.

But I don't know if all of my neurodivergence can be explained by ADHD either. I don't know what it is. My therapist wasn't dismissive of the idea that it might be autism, but said she can't really help with the diagnosis and suggested I ask my psychiatrist, which I will at my our appointment. I asked my previous psychiatrist, who thankfully I only saw twice before he left for a different practice, and he was extremely dismissive. It was for practical reasons—he said the test is expensive, and an autism diagnosis wouldn't help me get any additional benefits or accomodations that I don't already qualify for with an ADHD diagnosis. And sure, fair enough, I'm not approaching this from a medicalist point of view where I'm like "I need an official diagnosis or I can't have autism", and in a perfect world, no diagnosis would be necessary. I could just be like "this is how my brain is, these are the reasonable accomodations I need,", and that'd be it. My current job is very accommodating. They let me work with the overhead fluorescent lights off (we have big windows that provide a lot of natural light) and they allow me to wear headphones all day while I work. But I might not be here forever, and wherever I work next might be like "Why do you need sensory accommodations? You're not autistic?" And maybe my psych can write a note like "my client needs these accomodations for ADHD" and everything will be fine, but I dunno. My current psych is a lot better, and he'll probably bring up the same cost/benefit warning, but I don't think he'll dismiss the idea out of hand. And hey, maybe I'm not! Maybe it's all ADHD or maybe I have some as-yet undiagnosed form of neurodivergence. I don't fundamentally care about the actual label, I just wanna understand my brain and get through life with as little suffering as possible. And I think I have an above-average understand of my brain and what it needs, I just need to figure out how to fulfill those needs in a social system that is hostile towards and punishes what it considers abnormal.

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bluelander: Ness sprite from Earthbound with rainbow borders (Fuzzy Pickles)
Fedicard! It's the craze that's sweeping the fediverse. Make your own collectible game-like trading card to share on the fediverse. But the program for making them doesn't work on my computer. Sad day.

Well, I've never been one to let a crappy computer stand in the way of my fun, so I used someone else's card as a template and made my own, with a few custom symbols thrown in as a bonus.

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